Children exhibit signs of arrogance for many reasons, including boredom, insecurity and even inflated senses of self or ego. Although the diagnosis and solutions for helping arrogant children should be left to professionals and parents, undoubtedly arrogance in the schoolyard affects the peer-to-peer development of other children and leads to emotionally damaging activities, such as teasing, exclusivity and even bullying. Parents can prepare their children for these situations with comfort, support and advice.
- Difficulty: Easy
Listen and support. A parent may not know a kid has hurt or inadequate feelings at school until the child decides to share. Listen to her story without judgment or anger at the situation, and keep the conversation soothing and encouraging. Emphasize that the arrogant child's possible misbehavior is not a reflection or because of your child's own wrongdoing, and have a teaching moment about how she might have handled the situation differently had the roles been reversed.
Speak to an authority figure. Although some parents may feel comfortable talking to the arrogant child's parents directly, consider speaking to a teacher or counselor at the school. He may have some insight regarding the other child, offer an impartial eye during the day and act as a buffer between potentially emotional or defensive parents.
Set up positive play dates. Cancel interactions with the arrogant child, and instead organize outings with other children who show humility, graciousness and modesty. Involving children in age-appropriate volunteer efforts teaches lasting life lessons and reinforces positive personal characteristics.
Talk about bullying-avoidance techniques. If an arrogant child is outspoken or aggressive to his peers, the actions and solutions can mirror that of bullying. In this case, experts encourage children to try to avoid the aggressive child altogether by doing things like using a different water fountain or bathroom as well as working on their "poker faces." Kids who ignore hurtful or insulting comments are less likely to satisfy the bully with this mild reaction, and it is harder to be a bully without a willing victim.
Tips & Warnings
If peer arrogance is a problem at school, contact the teacher or counselor before confronting a parent directly.
If your child is uncomfortable talking to you, encourage him to speak to an older sibling or family friend.
From: By Val Reilly, eHow Contributor