How to help your child deal with self-centered egotistical children – Xyami Know How

Children exhibit signs of arrogance for many reasons, including boredom, insecurity and even inflated senses of self or ego. Although the diagnosis and solutions for helping arrogant children should be left to professionals and parents, undoubtedly arrogance in the schoolyard affects the peer-to-peer development of other children and leads to emotionally damaging activities, such as teasing, exclusivity and even bullying. Parents can prepare their children for these situations with comfort, support and advice.

Difficulty: Easy

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     Listen and support. A parent may not know a kid has hurt or inadequate feelings at school until the child decides to share. Listen to her story without judgment or anger at the situation, and keep the conversation soothing and encouraging. Emphasize that the arrogant child's possible misbehavior is not a reflection or because of your child's own wrongdoing, and have a teaching moment about how she might have handled the situation differently had the roles been reversed.

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     Speak to an authority figure. Although some parents may feel comfortable talking to the arrogant child's parents directly, consider speaking to a teacher or counselor at the school. He may have some insight regarding the other child, offer an impartial eye during the day and act as a buffer between potentially emotional or defensive parents.

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     Set up positive play dates. Cancel interactions with the arrogant child, and instead organize outings with other children who show humility, graciousness and modesty. Involving children in age-appropriate volunteer efforts teaches lasting life lessons and reinforces positive personal characteristics.

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     Talk about bullying-avoidance techniques. If an arrogant child is outspoken or aggressive to his peers, the actions and solutions can mirror that of bullying. In this case, experts encourage children to try to avoid the aggressive child altogether by doing things like using a different water fountain or bathroom as well as working on their "poker faces." Kids who ignore hurtful or insulting comments are less likely to satisfy the bully with this mild reaction, and it is harder to be a bully without a willing victim.

Tips & Warnings

• If peer arrogance is a problem at school, contact the teacher or counselor before confronting a parent directly.

• If your child is uncomfortable talking to you, encourage him to speak to an older sibling or family friend.

From: By Val Reilly, eHow Contributor

How to know if your boyfriend is Self-Centered – Xyami Know How

Here are a couple of things that might help you find out a little more about the person you are dating. If you ever felt your boyfriend is a bit self-centered but wasn't really sure, then perhaps you should ask yourself the following questions about your partner. If you get all three of the following, then maybe your partner truly is.

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     Does your boyfriend spend a lot of time saying "I"?

     Really think about it. I know the word "I" is apart of the English language but if your boyfriend is using this word too often then he might be sending you subliminal messages. When you carry on a conversation and he can not go every other sentence without say "I" then something is wrong. Usually the guy starts each statement with the word "I" instead of "We". It is most noticeable when you disagree on something and the "I" word constantly comes out of his mouth. If he never says, "What do YOU think WE should do?" or "How do YOU feel?" instead of "I think we should...." or "I want this..." Then it shows a failure to see things from your point of view.

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     Do you find yourself watching his genre of movies?

     It may seem small but it does send a clear message. If your boyfriend can not watch your favorite films or even care to know them. Then he is sending another clear self-centered message. Ask yourself if you find yourself in the following scenarios.
     A. Your movie dates consist of only his favorite style of films.
     B. You suggest one of your favorites for him to watch but he is always too tired to watch it.
     C. You watch one of your favorites with him and he falls asleep.
     D. You ask him what he thought of one of your favorite films and his answers are short and simple. i.e. "It was pretty good....I liked it" But when asked about a genre of film he likes, his answers become more in-depth and detailed.

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     Does your boyfriend prefer you to take charge in bed?

     Now this might seem a bit strange but trust me it is true. If your boyfriend prefers for you to take charge in bed, then he is communicating to you that he is self-centered. Most women would disagree with this notion. Many women would say that a man who is always on top of you is someone that is self-centered because he is trying to please himself and a man that prefers you on top is just more passionate and interesting in bed and at worst just a lazy lover. Not true. In reality, most guys get on top of you to simply please you. They want to take control so that they see to it that you are enjoying the sex. This can be a good and bad thing depending on what you like, but I am not here to tell you what you like. I'm here to tell you what it all really means in bed. If your man likes to be under you all the time, it means that he prefers for you to please him. He likes to see you make love to him and service him. It is another message to you about his character. If the two of you please each other orally, but you usually more often than not, pleases him in this way during each sexually encounter and doesn't get much in return; then you are being sent another clear message. It might not seem like a big deal but his subconscious is speaking volumes to you my friend.

By HonestShawn, eHow User

A Self Centered Egotistical Mind

Wicked is the ego of self centered fools.
Who care about nothing but causing trouble.
Nobody can do right in the eyes of such people.
They have people beside them blinded in comfort.
The selfishness of the ego cries like a baby.
Especially when things don’t go the way it wants.
Then it try’s and psych you out by asking questions.
Did I do something wrong? Are you pushing me away?
The people who see this ego driven selfishness, laugh.
Every time it is expressed, we all laugh harder.
We laugh because this type of self centeredness grows.
It grows younger and more childish every single day.
This type of egotistical, possessiveness yearns for help.
But, you can’t tell someone this who already knows everything.
Why try beating a dead horse if it’s living?
It will still remain a dead horse breathing lucid air.
The self centered ego sucks people down and everything around it as well.
It cannot survive by simply being happy for others.
It needs to choke people, tell them they aren’t doing things right.
The ego has its own built up hatred to feed, on others faults.
What selfishness and pity can the human mind have?
Self centered minds who blame everything going wrong on others.
This is why egotistical self centered minds get pushed away.
This is why people leave and don’t want to come back, ever.
It’s always something, it’s always someone else’s fault.
This is the mind set of the ego driven self centered thought.
Never happy about anything unless it is perfect by the ego’s standards.
Funny, nobody seems to get along with this personality.
Grow up! Move on with life. Leave others alone. Stop pushing away.

HIV is still on the increase in Reading By Jessica Harding

Sunday marked 30 years since the first reported cases of HIV in the UK.

Jessica Harding of sexual health charity Thames Valley Positive Support – which helps those affected by HIV – explains the importance of keeping up awareness three decades on

Thirty years, ‘so what?’ you might think; the number of people being diagnosed must have gone down and the stigma surrounding this virus has all but disappeared.

It appears the older this virus gets, the less we actually talk about it. Sadly, when it comes to HIV, quite the opposite is happening.

In fact in Reading the number of people newly diagnosed is still rising and the town has been flagged up by the department of health as an HIV hot spot, meaning the prevalence of HIV in Reading is higher than in many major UK cities.

As for stigma, people affected by HIV face it daily. Thames Valley Positive Support (TVPS) is the only HIV charity in Berkshire and here we see first-hand the effects of such discrimination.

We believe knowledge of this virus is the key, both to bringing down the number of people contracting HIV and to removing the stigma that seems to go all too comfortably with this virus.

So indulge me. Let’s just go through some basics. HIV is contracted only via unprotected sex; sharing unsterilised needles; from mother to baby through either childbirth (very rarely in the UK) or breast feeding; and from injection or transfusion of contaminated blood.

You can’t contract HIV by kissing, hugging, sitting on a toilet seat, sharing a pen or using the same cutlery. This is already well known by most people, but these examples are all too common misconceptions we come across regularly. TVPS has joined forces with West Berkshire Primary Care Trust to bring West Berkshire the Free Adult Condom Trust (FACT).

The scheme offers high-risk and vulnerable adults easy access to free contraception in a range of venues. We are really pleased to be involved in such an innovative project that really does give people the opportunity to be in control of their sexual health.

For more information on the scheme please visit www.freeadultcondomtrust.org.uk

Remember our key message: Spread the love, not STIs.

If you or someone you are close to has been diagnosed with HIV, please visit www.tvps.org.ukfor information about the support we offer, or call 0118 935 3730.

June 06, 2011